7 Steps To Success & Happiness

Success Tools 2 And 3 Background

Although it’s not necessary to understand why a tool is working for it to be phenomenally powerful, some people like to understand the details of why they are using a particular method or tool.

So here’s some background information about tools 2 and 3 and why they work.

If you’re not interested in knowing the details you don’t need to read this – the tools will work just as well without all the explanation.  This is just for those of you who like to know all the details.

All your blocks to success can easily be identified by noticing your uncomfortable or unsupportive thoughts, feelings and sensations and you’ve started to do with tool number 2 – the awareness tool.

All your very uncomfortable feelings and sensations – physical and emotional – originate from physical or emotional needs you had – or imagined you had – at some time in your early life – particularly in early childhood.

If those ‘needs’ were not met – you automatically and mostly unconsciously, made some meaning out of the ‘lack’ and then stored the meaning – linked to the feeling or sensation of lack, need or fear of loss – somewhere in your mind-body energy system.

For example – most human beings brought up in the western ‘civilised’ world suffer from a severe lack of basic touch, mainly because Western culture encourages parents to believe that too much touch is not only unnecessary, but bad – ‘ you should put your baby down in its crib and leave it there until it stops crying’ parents are told.

Yet children brought up in ‘primitive’ cultures, where they are held constantly as babies show no signs of violence, stress or tension while they are babies, or when they start to interact with other children, or as they grow up.

SO PLEASE NOTE: whenever you experience strong emotions now – remember:

• Your current strong emotions are never only to do with what’s happening in your life right now – they are actually to do with deep unconscious memories of things that happened a long time ago and that you are now being reminded of by current events.

• All the meanings you made up – unconsciously – when your ‘needs’ were not met as a child – were completely untrue.

• So the strong emotions you’re feeling as a result are actually based on nothing but ‘lies’ you told yourself and false beliefs you made up a long time ago.

For example – if on a regular basis as a baby you did not get fed when you became hungry(note – this principle is rarely caused by an event that happened only once – unless it was a particularly traumatic event), you might unconsciously have made up meanings for yourself such as:

‘No one loves or cares about me’ or

‘I’d better eat all the food I can get any time I can get it – because I might not get food when I need it and then I might die’.

Or if you were regularly told off or made to feel stupid at home or at school – you might have made up beliefs such as:

‘I’m stupid – so I can’t expect to succeed or be loved’ or ‘I’ll need to work really hard to succeed or to be loved’.

These meanings are all completely false – so it’s never helpful to carry these false beliefs forward into your future life.

But – if you don’t have everything the way you want it in your life – that’s what you’ve been doing till now.   Which is why you get particularly uncomfortable feelings and sensations when something happens that unconsciously reminds you of those deep hidden beliefs.

Since in Western society we’re not taught useful ways of dealing with uncomfortable feelings and sensations, you probably grew up learning to ignore or suppress those uncomfortable feelings – so you also missed the opportunity to notice and let them go.

But the feelings and the blocks they cause don’t just go away if you suppress or ignore them – they get stored in your body and show up as physical pain or discomfort, difficult emotions or signs of failure and stress.

For example a client of mine was very confused when her husband became ill, because instead of feeling loving and caring towards him, she felt deeply and inexplicably resentful and angry.  In her case this was because she’d spent a lot of her childhood unconsciously feeling unloved by both parents because her father was chronically unwell and needed her mother’s attention a great deal.

In this case it was possible to understand fairly easily where the uncomfortable feelings originated – but it’s not always so easy to know exactly where your feelings and blocks started – and its really not necessary to know, because it’s definitely very easy to clear those old feelings and patterns without ever knowing exactly where they came from. 

In fact trying to identify the cause can be a very big waste of time and money!

So to let go of the past and unblock all your past blocks to success here’s what you’re going to do now:

Stop fighting and suppressing your feelings – and instead observe and accept them just the way they are and watch as they change – resolve – and dissolve automatically – just as you learned to do in Step 2.

Then you’re going to use tool number 3 – when it arrives – to make the process even easier.

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